|This was on the wall in the Oncology Unit|
When we all heard the news last spring we were stunned-as anyone would be-or has been hearing those words. We thought chemo, surgery, she'll beat this. We didn't think that after surgery. We just hoped for time. How many people have thought about what they would do if they got that diagnosis-me, i often thought i would take a trip somewhere i hadn't been but wanted to go. The reality is, you stay home and fight your illness. You feel like crap half the time and just struggle to get through the days. You see your friends and family. There is no "one last trip." There is only fighting one more day-day by day.
I've been through the death of family before-sudden and drawn out. You expect it with grandparents. They have lived a life. The younger ones-that's not easy. (Not that death is easy, but sometimes is more "expected" and easier to accept.) I can't talk about her or think about her with out crying. She was such an influence on me. Some of my earliest childhood memories are of her. The time she did my hair and make-up. Dressed me up in a fancy dress and shoes. Announced to family at dinner that "Cinderella" had arrived for dinner. I walked down from her room upstairs to my grandmother's kitchen and felt like a princess..(the 1965 version of Cinderella had been on tv prior to this) but it wasn't '65. It was later, '68 maybe. I know i was older than 2. Anyway, many memories flood my head these days. I dread the day the phone call comes and we make the long drive back to say the final, final goodbye.